I never knew about the harmful effects of
cohabitation. Most of the misconceptions make sense to me, especially the
concept that it is important to test out the relationship before you make the
final commitment of marriage, but after the discussion that we had in class it
really cleared up the false assumptions that I had. The main difference between
cohabitation and marriage is the level of deeper commitment. With that
commitment it gives the relationship deeper meaningful felt sense of security. It
is ineffective most of the time couples in this type of relationship do not
last or remain stagnant due to the lack of commitment to one another. Unlike in
a typical marriage a divorce there are more sacrifices that a couple would lose
in a divorce so as an affect the couple is more likely to try to make the
marriage work. Unlike what is portrayed in the typical marriage in the media there
are many benefits of marriage. These health benefits are:
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If you are marriage you are less likely to
suffer from long term illness.
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Better survival rate from illness.
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Lower mortality rates.
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Overall, both men and women are happier.
Another concept that was clarified for me
this week was the concept of a contractual marriage vs. a convent marriage. Contractual
marriage- the couple is seeking happiness but when their expectations are being
fulfilled then they both feel it is okay to divorce. They stay also long as
they obtain the benefits. Covenant marriage –It is more legally binding
recognized by the community, God, and has more stipulations attached. For
example temple sealing would be one the implications of a covenant marriage.
