I am learning so much about what
I thought marriage was supposed to be and what it takes to sustain one. It is
helping me to clear up the misconceptions that I have been taught by the media
and personally from a broken home. This week’s concept of interracial marriage
stood out to me the most. My opinion of those who were against interracial dating
and marriages were backwards in their thinking and not moving with the current
times. I also used to believe that those who were opposed to interracial
relationships were racists.
The article goes more into depth
to explain the stipulations that are associated with it. I came to realize that
I cannot and should not make generalizations of others based off of my family’s
shameful perspective of “stick with your own kind” and “Border patrolling” philosophies.
This article helped me to understand more clearly the misconception that I had
because of my family’s negative conditioning. Growing up my family never provided a valid
reason as to why I should not date or even think about marrying someone from a
different race. All they would say that it was wrong and they would make fun of
me for it. My justifications for
advocating it would be:
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I figured that if we are all God’s children, we
are all equal.
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We should marvel at these differences instead of
fearing that it would eliminate our family traditions. I feel that it would strengthen
and enhance them more than anything.
·
I always thought that you should marry someone that
you are the most compatible with regardless of race. I still feel the same way.
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It’s limiting yourself on endless opportunities
of happiness that you could have from other cultures or ethnicity. By making
the decision to only date and marrying someone from your own race, those
experiences will be fewer. You still can
continue to have similar experiences if you decide not to date other ethnicity,
but I know that it has changed my perspective drastically by dating others from
different ethnicity. I am more open-minded now and have more empathy in different
situations and events that I might have overlooked otherwise.
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I feel that the children from interracial
marriages would become more understanding in the sense that they can better
value differences because they were raised parents who have two diverse cultures.
·
I feel that if the individuals must have the
same standards.
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If backgrounds aren’t as important, then it
should not matter to you.
This is one of the topics that I feel extremely avid
about. On the other hand, I am not ignoring the cons related to such a choice.
I know that I am willing to assume the risk of lower stability and perhaps
resist pressures from family and the world if that is what it takes to find
joy. Ultimately you have to decide what is best for you in your life.
