After reading these two chapters I realized that most people
including myself neglect to think about the possibility of getting divorced or
losing a spouse because forget to take into account that things happen that are
out of our control. These chapters real made me think as to whether I would
want to remarry if I lost my spouse in the future or get a divorce which I feel
is would be my last resort. Only if my spouse cheated on me that would be
something I would not be willing to forgive. This chapter really hit home for
me because I had a complicated relationship during my freshman to junior year
in high school in which I my girlfriend cheated on me and then had a baby by
someone else and she tried to tell that it was mine, but she later admitted that
it wasn’t and it tore me apart inside. This has affected my relationships and
perspective on dating drastically. I am less trusting and do not open up to
others as much as I use to because of fear of being hurt again. This experience
has changed my life forever. I do not think I could ever talk to someone with
kids or be a stepfather because I fear that I would put my heart in the right
place have the child grow up and say that you’re not my father would kill me. I really liked this chapter because it
explores the myths that most people continue to believe in. I just hope that I
when I do decide to marry that I will do it right the first time so that I can
avoid the complication and confusion this is a part of remarriage with kids and
emotional baggage.
